One of the best ways to avoid the possibility of rejection is to make sure that the girl you’re asking on a date likes you, too. Of course, this can be tricky, since girls aren’t always upfront with their feelings. Like we said, they expect the guy to be the one to initiate conversation, so the chances of them just coming right out and saying they are interested in you are pretty slim. Every once in a blue moon you may have a girl who flirts with you first, and even more rarely a girl may invite you to attend an event with her, but she still won’t usually call it a date. In the end, you could still be left wondering if she really likes you, or if she is just being friendly. Manners and a friendly demeanor are awful attractive, but they can sometimes make it really hard to differentiate between a girl who wants to be your friend, and a girl who possibly wants something much more.
No worries, though, because there are a few sure fire ways to tell that a girl likes you. Of course, every girl is different, but these few common behaviors seen in most girls generally indicate that they have an interest in you past just being friends. Maybe not if she only displays one behavior from the list, but if the girl you are crushing on shows multiple of these behaviors when you’re around, then there’s a pretty good chance that she likes you, too. Once you’ve determined that your crush is crushing on you, then you should definitely take that next step and ask her out, because chances are she will say yes!
Some of these things are based on science. They are completely subconscious, and even she may not be aware that she is giving herself away. Others are entirely conscious behaviors. Sometimes she may even be directly attempting to get you to notice her, or to take your relationship one step further. It all can be really confusing, we know, so we’ve made you a list of these behaviors to help you figure out.
She Smiles At You
Of course, girls can smile at you and not mean anything by it, but if you notice that your crush is smiling at you everytime she sees you, that is definitely a good sign. A girl will smile when they feel comfortable or want to seem approachable. She knows that smiling at you is a sure, but subtle way to get your attention. Maybe a passing smile means nothing at all, but if nine times out of ten she is smiling your way, then she is probably giving you the green light to approach her and strike up a conversation. After all, if she weren’t interested, chances are she wouldn’t even be looking you’re way that often, much less smiling at you all the time.
She Looks For You Immediately Upon Entering A Room
This only works if you share a class, job, or regular event with her, but you should be able to notice if she looks for you when she knows you will be around. If she walks into a room and she knows you’re going to be there, pay close attention. If she likes you, she is probably going to look for you immediately upon entering a room she expects you to be in. Her eyes will flutter around the room until she sees you. She could act one of two ways once she catches your stare. She could smile and act entirely approachable or happy to see you, or she could lookaway and nonchalantly pretend as if she weren’t looking for you to begin with. If she likes you, though, you can bet that she acts a little different when you are around than when you aren’t. This may only be simple changes, like she could be more conscious of her appearance, checking her hair or makeup frequently. Or she could get incredibly nervous when you’re around. Perhaps she speaks out less in class. Either way, if her eyes search for you every time she walks in the room, it’s because she is interested in you and wants to know when you’re around.
Her Body Language Is Approachable
This one is important. In order to be able to read a girl and her feelings for you, you need to learn how to read body language. Women are notorious for wearing their thoughts and feelings on their sleeve, and if a girl doesn’t want you around, she will often do what she can to seem unapproachable. Sometimes this means staying on her cell phone, turning away from you, avoiding eye contact, or other body language signs that seem to shoo you away. However, if a girl likes you, she will do the exact opposite. For instance, if she turns towards you, sits with her arms open, points her body in your direction, tilts her chin upwards, brushes her hair out of her face, or seems relaxed when you come around, those are usually signs that she is comfortable with you approaching her. Of course, this may not be a sure fire sign that she likes you, but it at least indicates that she is interested in a conversation with you, which can definitely get the ball rolling and give you the opportunity to look for other signs that she may be interested in you, too.
She’s Always Preening When You’re Around
Preening is the act of adjusting oneself to appear more attractive. For a girl, this usually means straightening her posture to make her chest more profound, fixing her hair to frame her face, or otherwise positioning her body to get your attention. This is a natural thing across almost every species, and it’s no different in humans. The acts may be intentional or subconscious, meaning she may straighten her posture when you’re around without even noticing. Other actions that fall into this category could be standing up when you’re in the room, turning to the side to show off different assets, or lifting her chin to look confident. Either way, if she’s preening when you come around, it’s because she wants to get your attention.
She Laughs When You Talk To Her
If she laughs when you talk, especially at your cheesy jokes, then she likes you, no doubt. Blame a lot of it on science, but girls are much more likely to laugh at everything you say when they feel relaxed, comfortable, or infatuated by a guy. Of course, we don’t mean she has to laugh at every single conversation the two of you have. There should always be room for more serious, straightforward conversations, too. But she will laugh often, or make jokes pertaining to what you were talking about to find reasons for the two of you to laugh together. You can always try cracking a couple of cheesy jokes. If she is into you, she will laugh at them, no matter how bad they are.
She Glances At You Often
If you notice that she looks your way, even for short periods of time, it’s usually because she is interested. She could be trying to learn more about you, or she could be curious if you ever look in her direction. Typically, if she likes you, she will naturally want to know if you like her too, so she will be looking your way often. These glances are usually pretty short stares, and she may smile or appear to be looking right past you if you catch her. Either way, if she is looking your way more often than not, it’s because she is interested in what you’re doing, and probably interested in how you feel, too.
She Looks Away When You Make Eye Contact
Now, she may look at you often, but when you look back at her she will most likely dart her eyes away from you. This is a simple case of nervousness. She feels shy (because she likes you) and she doesn’t want you to know she was looking at you. If she avoids prolonged eye contact, especially if she was looking at you first, then that is a pretty good sign that she is interested in you. Try making eye contact with her and see how she reacts. Once you catch her eyes, if she doesn’t look away, she will probably smile in your direction.
She Fidgets A Lot
Girls fidget anyways, that is true, but fidgeting could indicate that she is nervous around you, which in turn could indicate that she likes you. Look for little things that she might do when you’re around, especially when you talk to her. She might play with her hair while she talks to you. Or she could fidget with her phone or her keys or her jewelry. Either way, nervous fidgeting is usually a sign of attraction, and it might indicate that she’s waiting for you to make your move.
She Touches You Often
Often, if she likes you, she will find reasons to touch you. This could be simple, like brushing against you as she passes by or reaching out to touch you arm to comment on a scar or tattoo. Or it could be more openly affectionate, like a hug when she first sees you or when she leave. Either way, girls are pretty conscious or their body and the things they touch, so if she touches you frequently, you can assume that it’s probably intentional. If she is deliberately touching you, it means she likes you.
She Adds You On Social Media
Social media is a great way to get to know more about someone, especially if you are too nervous or shy to talk to them in real life. If she adds you online, there is definitely some sort of interest there. She may be trying to look at your relationship status, your interests, or maybe she just wants to see your status updates to learn more about you. Sometimes, a girl may add you on social media because she wants to open up every opportunity for you to talk to her. If she likes your photos, comments on your statuses, or interacts with you otherwise on the internet, she may just be inviting you to interact with her in real life.
She Blushes When You Are Around
Here is another one you can thank science for. When a girl likes you, she is likely to blush around you pretty often. Blushing is a reaction that is subconsciously controlled by your nervous system, and when you feel extreme emotions, like anger, joy, or physical attraction, that nervous system tends to overload and cause the muscles in your face to fill with blood. Therefore, if a woman blushes around you often, she is likely physically attracted to you. Since this is an automatica reaction, and not something she can control, its one of the more doubt free ways to determine that she likes you.
She Seems Jealous When You Talk To Other Girls
Girls are notoriously jealous, and jealousy is a pretty significant sign of attraction. If she seems jealous when you talk to other girls, it’s probably because she likes you quite a bit. She may not outright tell yo she is jealous, but she may ask alot of questions about that girl, like how you know her or how long you’ve known her. She might make jokes about this girl being your crush or girlfriend, which is just an attempt to get you to tell her if you like the girl or not. Of course, there is a point where jealousy may be a red flag, especially if she acts controlling. But a little playful jealousy over you talking to other girls is just her showing you how she truly feels, that is, that she wants you all to herself.
She Talks To Her Friends About You
Of course, if you don’t know her friends, or if her friends are really great at keeping secrets, this tip won’t help you out much. But let’s face it, girls gossip, and if she has said anything about you to her friends, you have probably heard it through the grapevine. If you overhear that she was whispering to her friends about you, then it’s pretty obvious that she is interested. Her friends are less likely to tell you about good things she says than the bad, so if they are trying to keep it a secret then it’s likely that she was totally crushing on you to her friends. Regardless of what was said, though, the fact that she even brings you up to her friends means you are relevant to her in some way, and it may just be because she likes you quite a bit.
She Hints That She Is Single
This is a pretty big deal, actually, and one of the easiest ways to tell that a girl is into you. If she leads on or hints that she is single, it’s because she wants you to ask her out. She has no other reason to divulge to you her relationship status, besides to let you know that she is available and looking to date. She might not come right out and say “Hey, I’m single and want to date you,” but rather suggest the idea. She could mention things about her previous relationship or her exes to imply that she isn’t dating someone now. Either way, if she is hinting to you that she is available, then she probably wants you to ask her out.
She Leaves Her Friends To Talk To You
Girls travel in groups, love to gossip, and usually stick pretty closely to their clique of friends. If she exits a conversation with her friends to speak to you, even just to catch up and say hi, she might just be interested in being more than friends with you. This means that she notices you, or that she finds you interesting enough to leave her friends for the chance at a conversation with you. If she walks away from her friends to talk to you instead, you better believe she likes you, and you better believe she’s going to tell her friends all about it later, too.
She Texts You Back Quickly
Rest assured, she almost always has her phone. If you text her and she rarely replies, then it might be time to let it go, but if she replies instantly and keeps the conversation going, she definitely likes you. You can also judge the content of her text messages. If she is into you, she won’t just let a conversation die out. Instead, she may ask questions about you or tell you about herself. If she likes you, you definitely won’t be getting a lot of “K”s and “Yeah”s to your inbox. If she is sending you texts out of the blue or starting conversations with you, she’s probably ready for you to ask her on a date. Of course, she probably has a life, so don’t assume that just because she doesn’t always reply that she doesn’t like you. Just try again later and see how it goes.
She Puts Her Phone Away When You’re Around
Like we said, girls always have their phone. So if she doesn’t use it much when you’re around, there is probably a reason why. If you notice that she puts her phone away when you talk to her, that she puts off phone calls or text messages until you leave, or she tries to make calls and texts quick, it’s probably because she is more interested in what you have to say than what’s going on in her phone. Sometimes, calls or texts might be urgent and unavoidable, but as long as she isn’t ignoring you to constantly text her friends, then there’s a good sign she is listening to what you have to say.
She Does Any Of These Things More Than Once
This is probably the most important thing on the list. It is incredibly juvenile to assume that because a girl does one of these things once or twice that she is automatically in love with you. In fact, some of these things, like smiling at you, can really just mean that she is being polite and well mannered. What you should look for is whether the behaviors repeat, or whether she exhibits several behaviors from this list frequently. Look for more than one clue before jumping to conclusions that a girl likes you. But if she is smiling in your direction, blushing when you talk to her, and always laughing at your jokes, there’s a good chance she is into you. Of course, the only way to really know is to ask, so work up the courage to ask that girl on a date, and you just might be surprised at how well it goes.